How Do You Find a Surrogate Mother?

How Do You Find a Surrogate Mother?

If you are an intended parent considering surrogacy, one of the most difficult parts of your decision can be choosing the right surrogate mother to help bring your child into the world. Your surrogate mother will become a part of your family for a period of time, and you must trust this person completely. When you have a healthy relationship with your surrogate, the experience can be positive and enjoyable.

At Baby Steps Surrogacy Center, Inc., we understand the importance of choosing a surrogate. We want to help intended parents make the right choice by simplifying the process and matching them with the right surrogate mother.

Create a Personalized Surrogacy Plan

The first step in finding a surrogate mother is to create a personalized surrogacy plan. Your agency representative can help you create this plan by asking you questions about your priorities during pregnancy. One of the first decisions you must make is whether you will choose gestational or traditional surrogacy.

Gestational surrogacy transfers both the egg and sperm into the surrogate mother; traditional surrogacy uses the egg of the surrogate. In traditional surrogacy, the surrogate is the biological mother of the child, which can make choosing a surrogate mother more difficult.

Regardless of which route you choose, you may have other requests for your surrogate mother, such as specific age requirements or health specifications. Knowing what you want before moving forward with the matching process can make finding a surrogate less stressful.

Find the Right Match

Once you know which type of surrogate mother you are looking for, your agency can assist you with finding the right match. You can sift through many women and choose which option feels right for you. Your agency will screen all the women you consider to make sure they are physically and psychologically able to carry a child. You will also have the chance to interview your surrogate before making a decision. 

How a Reputable Agency Can Help

Without the help of a reputable surrogacy agency, finding a surrogate can feel impossible. You may not have the resources you need to make sure your surrogate mother is healthy, to set up the legal contracts associated with surrogacy, or to move forward with in vitro fertilization. Having an agency handle these tasks for you will decrease your stress so you can focus on the most important thing: your future child.

Contact Our Surrogacy Center in Philadelphia

At Baby Steps Surrogacy Center, Inc., we can handle your surrogacy from the moment you choose this route until after the baby is born. We will protect your parental rights, take care of compensation between you and the surrogate mother, and set up contracts to keep emotions at ease. Most importantly, we will help match you with a surrogate mother that fits your family.

If you would like to speak with a member of our team and discuss any questions you have during a free consultation, call 412-884-2229 or click the contact button at the top of the page.

Are There Risks to Being a Surrogate Mother?

Are There Risks to Being a Surrogate Mother

Becoming a surrogate mother is a brave and rewarding experience. You will be giving a couple an invaluable gift by offering to carry their baby, and while there are many benefits to being a surrogate, carrying a child can understandably come with various risks in any context. Not only does surrogacy come with similar risks to traditional pregnancy, but it comes with unique risks of its own.

If you are considering becoming a surrogate, it is important to be aware of the medical risks as well as the emotional risks. At Baby Steps Surrogacy Center, Inc., we will prepare you for your surrogacy journey so that you feel confident and excited about what is ahead of you. We want you to have a healthy relationship with the intended parents and be knowledgeable before moving forward.

Possible Medical Risks of Being a Surrogate

The unique risks that come with being a surrogate are related to embryo transfer or, when dealing with gestational surrogacy, the in vitro fertilization (IVF) procedure as a whole. IVF involves fertility injections, and the embryo transfer will require a tube to be inserted into your uterus. IVF preparation may lead to allergic reactions, and the procedure can cause cramping or, in rare cases, infections.

The medical risks associated with surrogacy itself are the same risks associated with traditional pregnancy. There is always a chance of uncomfortable side effects throughout pregnancy, as well as miscarriage, preterm labor, placental abruption, and the possible need for a cesarean section. In rare and severe cases, birth complications can also lead to death, so it is important to know this going in. 

Emotional Preparation for Surrogacy

You will need to emotionally prepare for carrying a child, because it will be a physically challenging experience, but aside from the physical aspect of surrogacy, it can be challenging because you are carrying a child who is not your own. 

You will need to deal with the intended parents and communicate with them throughout your pregnancy, which may feel frustrating at times while your hormones are flowing. It is important, however, to keep a healthy relationship with the parents of the baby you are carrying and understand that they have both you and the child’s best interests at heart. 

Because of pregnancy hormones, you may also experience depression or signs of grief during and shortly after the birth of the baby. You may feel that you have developed an emotional attachment to the child you just carried for nine months, but usually, these emotions subside when your hormones go back to normal levels.  

Contact Our Surrogacy Agency to Schedule a Free Consultation

Being a surrogate can be an extremely fulfilling experience, but it is important to prepare fully before committing to such an important decision. At Baby Steps Surrogacy Center, Inc., we will take you through a thorough screening process to ensure that you are both physically and mentally prepared for the journey ahead.

If you would like to discuss the surrogacy experience in greater detail, call our agency at 412-884-2229 or click the button at the top of the page.

Surrogacy: Can an Intended Mother Breastfeed?

Many intended mothers who are unable to give birth give up the hope of being able to breastfeed their babies, as they are under the impression that they will not be able to do so without being the biological mother to their baby. 

However, intended mothers who are interested in this wonderful bonding experience may be surprised to learn that they do have an opportunity to be able to breastfeed their baby. Continue reading to learn more about how you can breastfeed as an intended mother and why you will often hear people say “fed is best.” 

Breastfeeding as an Intended Mother

If you are an intended mother who had lost all hope that you would be able to breastfeed your baby, you should know that you do have other options. Intended mothers who are interested in breastfeeding should speak with their doctor. In some cases, your OBGYN or certified nurse midwife (CNM) may be able to prescribe you hormones that make your body think it is pregnant. 

If you are interested in breastfeeding your child, closer to the delivery of your baby, you may have the option to begin taking supplements that encourage milk production. In these cases, you would then also begin pumping, gradually increasing the strength and amount of time until you start producing milk. Once your baby is born, if you are producing milk, you should be able to experience this connection with your baby. 

“Fed Is Best” 

Although it is certainly possible to breastfeed your baby born through surrogacy, it is important to note that many intended mothers do not produce enough breast milk on their own and will often utilize a supplemental nursing system (SNS) using donor milk or formula in order to ensure that the baby is receiving enough to eat. 

In some cases, despite initially being able to produce milk, intended mothers are unable to continue breastfeeding. With that being said, the phrase “fed is best” will often be heard in pediatricians’ offices, your social media mom groups, and even in the hospital where your baby is born. 

Breast milk is certainly the preferred option for babies through their first year of life, but “fed is best” simply means that regardless of whether your baby drinks formula or breast milk, what is most important is they are receiving nutrition and are healthy, thriving, and loved. 

If you choose to attempt to breastfeed your baby, have your surrogate mother pump and/or breastfeed, or choose to feed your baby formula, just know that you will have made the right choice for you and your baby.

Reach Out to a Respected Surrogacy Agency

The entire surrogacy process can often feel very clinical, as you are in and out of doctors’ offices, filling out paperwork, and building contracts—all while being physically unable to feel your baby growing and moving. But when you finally are able to hold your baby for the first time, and possibly even breastfeed them, it will make everything you have been through worth your while. 

If you are ready to start exploring your surrogacy journey as an intended parent, schedule your first appointment at Baby Steps Surrogacy Center, Inc. now. You can give us a call at 412-884-2229 or click on the contact button at the top of the page, and we will be in touch to discuss your availability.